LESSONS 14 – 15 PRINCIPLE 5: Voluntarily submit to every change God wants to make…
LESSONS 12 – 13
PRINCIPLE 4: Openly examine and confess my faults to myself, to God, and to someone I trust. “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God” (Matthew 5:8)
STEP 5: We admitted to God, to ourselves, and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. “Therefore, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective” (James 5:16)
Recap of The Previous Step
I the last steps, we got a Sponsor who started working with us helping to hold us accountable so that we don’t relapse. We also joined an accountability group that help us take stock of our progress. We took a moral and spiritual inventory of past events in order to clean out our minds and bodies of the causes and effects of our hurts, hand-ons and habits.
LESSON 12 – CONFESSION
In this step, we will confess our wrongdoings. Confession here means: Confess your shortcomings, resentments, and sins – Obey God’s direction – No more guilt – Face the truth, Ease the pain – Stop the blame – Start accepting God.
Confess your Shortcomings, Resentments, and Sins: We need to confess the sins we discovered in our inventory, “Whoever conceals their sins does not prosper, but the one who confesses and renounces them finds mercy (Proverbs 28:13).
Obey God’s direction: After confession: We begin to obey God’s words and direction: “As surely as I live, says the Lord, every knee will bow before me; every tongue will acknowledge God. So then, each of us will give an account of ourselves to God” (Romans 14:11-12).
No more guilt: Genuine confession and obedience to God’s directions lesson the burn of guilt from our past. “Therefore, there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus” (Romans 8:1)
Face the Truth: We get the confidence to face the truth: “When Jesus spoke again to the people, he said, ‘I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness but will have the light of life.” (John 8:12)
Ease the pain: We are now in a state, where we are free from anxiety and fear that our secrets will be exposed. We are only as sick as our secrets.
Stop the blame: We cannot find peace and serenity if we continue to blame ourselves or others for our pasts (Matthew 7:3). We have confessed it, and owned-up to it, now we need to move on.
Start accepting God: If we believe we have been forgiven, we need to start accepting that God has forgiven us. “that God was reconciling the world to himself in Christ, not counting people’s sins against them. And he has committed to us the message of reconciliation” (2 Corinthians 5:19).
LESSON 13 – ADMIT
Here we mean admitting our wrongdoings to another person. “Therefore, confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed” (James 5:16). The refreshing part is the “healing”. However, to get to the refreshing part, we must go through the uncomfortable part—“confess your sins to one another.” This is often difficult for some people. However, admitting our wrongdoings to another person is important because ‘dirty’ secrets take a toll on our lives making us to live in secrecy and bondage. However, divulging the secrets releases their holds on us thereby setting us free from their bondage.
Admitting our wrongs to another person is an important step in the process because:
- We no longer feel we are alone; we lose our sense of isolation.
- Since someone else heard it and forgave us, we become more willing to forgive others.
- We become humble and lose our false sense of pride.
- By being truthful with another person, we will lose our sense of denial.
- We gain healing, freedom and support
Confessing our wrongs and admitting to another person we were wrong is an important step in our recovery process. However, we must be cautious and do this with someone who will not judge us. “Then they cried to the Lord in their trouble, and he saved them from their distress. He brought them out of darkness, the utter darkness, and broke away their chains”. (Psalm 107:13-14)